Truth and Reconciliation - When a Nation Grieves
Statement of Intent
Before I begin, I want to express that I am approaching this topic with a heart of love, respect, acceptance, and hope. I ask the Creator to guide my thoughts. My intention is to aid awakening through awareness. I acknowledge that I cannot claim understanding. I can say to all those who suffer the agonies of inequality that I accept you, I value you and I am open to share your pain. I also ask you to favor me with education should my words fall short or add to your pain.
What is Truth and Reconciliation Day About?
As I write this, it is September 30th. Today is Canadian Truth and Reconciliation Day. It is a day of polarities. On this day, we respond to the horrors of the past and the inequity of the present by expressing grief and hope. As a nation, we grieve the historic passing of so many Aboriginal Peoples as a result of the Residential School system. Today is also about opening our eyes to the beauty and rich diversity of our Aboriginal People’s culture, language, and religion. Finally, today represents an opportunity to join hands and commit to working together for a future emblazoned by equality, inclusion, and acceptance.
Open to Hope – A Community that Understands
Here in the Open to Hope community, there are no strangers to grief. We come here to share our individual losses and the resulting pain. We come together to offer support, wisdom and understanding. Together we are stronger than we can hope to be alone.
One of the atrocities wrought against the Aboriginal Peoples of our land was the breaking of that bond of unity. Families were intentionally divided. The uniting forces of community, culture, and spirituality were mercilessly stomped out. In this community we appreciate the value of family, memories, and tradition. We can imagine the struggle of trying to recollect the precious shards of language and tradition after so many years and so much pain.
Many Elders and Knowledge Keepers within our Indigenous Peoples communities are survivors of the Residential School system. To these people, I open my heart. It takes admirable courage to shoulder the burden of your grief and turn toward rebuilding rather than revenge.
I understand my privilege and recognize the unfair advantages it affords me every day of my life. What I hope to help others like me grasp is that there is a weight borne by most people of color. This is the weight of knowledge and history. It is the recognition that in the every-day struggle for self-value we all face, for some the scales are brutally tipped out of their favor. These worthy people endure inequity of a daily basis. These Peoples stagger under the weight of grief. So many children perished because they wore skin the same hue as theirs.
I see your pain and am sorry you have suffered it.
Grief Does Not Have a Statute of Limitations
In this Open to Hope community, we know the struggle of standing against this type of thinking. I am sure we have all suffered beneath the misconception that the experience of grief should be a limited-time experience. Grieving too long can be seen as unhealthy. The concept most of the world holds about moving on is skewed toward letting go of and leaving the past behind.
The past is part of us. We can’t leave it behind. We have no desire to forget our beloved departed or leave them in the past. Moving on is not the act of leaving our grief behind us. It is the process by which we knit it lovingly into a coat of many memories and wear it proudly every day of our lives.
Truth and Reconciliation Day – Canada’s Shawl of Grief
There are those who view this day of grief and hope in a disparaging light. I beg for a change of heart! Every one of us can surely agree that the wrongs of the past must be recognized. I hope that most of us can also see the inequality still prevalent today. I challenge each of us; Indigenous and non-Indigenous Peoples alike, to look at our brothers and sisters and see the beauty that is there! Look beyond the skin pigment – or lack thereof, and find something that is worthy of knowing, learning, and celebrating.
I hope that Truth and Reconciliation Day is never set aside. It is my prayer that the spirit of this day becomes the garment of grief we knit into something beautiful to wear daily with pride.